To the Stay-at-Home Mom Spending Her Husbands Money

A recent survey by Welch’s surveyed 2,000 American mommies of children between the ages of 5 and 12 years old. What they found is that the average mom tasks 98 hours a week, which is the equivalent of two and a half full-time undertakings!

It’s fair to note that there are only 168 hours in a week, so moms are literally operating around the clock.

Another study revealed that moms would induce practically $150,000 a year if they were paid for their time.

WOW. When you run the numbers, there’s no doubt that the price tag on the often thankless job that is motherhood is a hefty one.

So why is it that so many stay-at-home mamas found guilty for expend their husband’s income, as though they aren’t equally contributing to their household’s worth and well-being?

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Straight-shooting mama Laura Mazza has a few savagely honest considers on the matter, and her viral message is officially empowering women everywhere 😛 TAGEND

“I hear it a lot, a stay at home mom feels guilty for expend’ her husbands’ money.

We go from being independent women, who make an income, buy ourselves what we want, traveling, cars, we have an independent life, to women who have more holes in our underwear than pennies. And any small-minded money we have goes to our children.

The problem isn’t that we can’t get a job, some of us were lawyers, physicians, social workers, chefs, teachers, administrative laborers. And the problem isn’t that going back to work and trying to juggle school pick ups and baby’s and childcare costs that wipe out a whole weeks salary while coming home and doing it all is exhausting and hard.[ I] t’s the fact that we aren’t recognized for the hard work we are already doing.

We don’t even recognize it ourselves. There’s been so many times where I’ve heard stay at home moms ask to buy something, like the issue is 15 again. Asking for $10 to buy a bra.

It’s no longer ours, it’s his money. And if he wants to buy 400 shoes, well he was able to, because he worked.

But what about you? Raising kids, cleansing the house, cooking, making restores, appointment stopping, working 24 hours 7 days a week, is our lives now worth nothing where we are reduced to asking to buy ourselves a necessity?

Actually, I read a scientific study done by a running dad that said moms would pay 148,000 a year if they were paid. Crazy right?

We are lucky to be with our children, “we ii” privileged, yes, settle down Nancy, we know we are anointed, “were not” ungrateful, but we go through a lot, and losing our identity and becoming or being made to feel like a fiscal encumbrance is one. Being looked at like we are scum when we do work and have to leave to get sick children isn’t fun, sometimes we simply can’t win.

Mothers who stay home, you are not inadequate, you are not a burden, what you bring to your dwelling is contributing. You should not have to ask, if fund is there, for necessities. You’re not some lazy girl who drainages the debit card on shoes and bolt anyone who talks like that.

And partners who work, I plead you, treat your marriage like a partner, like an equal. You generated these children together. Fund does not give you the power in a relationship, that is not what relations are about. Using money as a figure of power is a form of abuse.

Successful relations need to discuss budgets, talk about their needs, and be incorporated into a team. Treat the mother of your children like merely that. The mother of their own children. And don’t ever let her ask you for money for a bloody-minded bra.”

** This post was written by Laura Mazza and originally is available on her Facebook page. For more reflections about motherhood, follow her here.

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